Family Equality Council is thrilled to welcome our newest Southern Advisory Council member, Martin Gill. As the sole plaintiff in the lawsuit that rendered the nation's most egregious and longest lasting adoption ban unenforceable, Martin became a tireless advocate for all LGBTQ parents, including their access to adoption from the foster care system.
Yesterday, the U.S. Seventh Circuit Court of Appeals heard oral arguments in the case of same-sex marriage bans in Indiana and Wisconsin. It was a huge day for our families in the midwest and for us as Judge Richard Posner highlighted Family Equality Council’s Voices of Children’s brief.
Jenny and I had forged a great life for ourselves– our dream life! We had a cute little horse farm in a small town just beyond the suburbs of Washington, DC. I had I job I loved as an equine veterinarian. She had a job she loved as the Program Director and instructor for Simple Changes Therapeutic Riding. Do you see a theme yet? Yup, horses.
People talk about the gay lifestyle, and I am never quite sure what that is, our lifestyle is all about our horses. The news that Jenny was pregnant was all it took for us to see most of our dreams to come true! We had the same anxiety that all parents have about this big milestone in our lives, how will our lives change? Will we be good parents? Plus we wondered how our small town neighbors would see our family. We choose a theme for the baby’s room, gasped in awe at the first ultrasound images and made the hundreds of choices needed for a baby shower registry. We were blown away by the warmth and generosity of our friends, coworkers and neighbors. We were treated with warmth and caring by our OB/Gyn. Consulting with trusted experienced parents, we selected a great pediatrician. After waiting so long to get pregnant, the pregnancy blew by so fast.
After being home with our two baby girls, Lily and Mia for almost two months, it’s hard to feel anything other than total elation. We were dreaming about this for so long, wondering how it could all work out, and now our twin baby girls are here. While a little bit tired, we are overjoyed!
The stress of our trip to D.C. and lack of sleep, and the confusion that came with our newfound motherhood are all so minor compared to the overwhelming joy that our babies have brought us. Our family is perfectly healthy and happy. Our support system of friends, family and neighbors has been more compassionate and caring than we ever could have imagined. This part of our adventure is just beginning, but the story of deciding to be lesbian parents in Virginia started long before we traveled to D.C. last month where my wife, Desiree, gave birth.
I am standing outside the steps of city hall in San Francisco. Jonathan on one side of me, and John on the other. It is August 13th, 2009 and after 23 years of a domestic partnership, the state of California is finally recognizing my father’s marriage. Other gay and lesbian couples are here to, celebrating what they only had dreamed possible. All I can think to myself is; how do all these marriages in any way affect the detractors of gay marriage?