Building Family Equality in Every Classroom

Parents can engage with their children’s schools in a variety of ways to help ensure a safe, supportive learning environment for their children. This list below offers some specific suggestions.  Do those which feel most comfortable to you. 

 
 Ask Questions

Ask the principal and your child’s teacher if they are aware of other LGBT families at the school currently or in the past. Ask how school staff deal with comments like “that’s so gay” or other anti-LGBT slurs. Ask whether the staff has received training on how to support students with LGBT families.  Ask the school librarian if the library contains books that include LGBT families. Find out who is on the school board, PTA and other influential groups at school and research their records regardng inclusiveness.

Be Out

Be as out as your feel your safely can be in your community.  Meet with your principal and teacher to introduce your family.  Introduce yourselves to other families at school.  Let your child’s teacher know what language you use to describe your family relationships (e.g. Daddy/Papa, Eva has two moms).  Be a guest speaker in your child’s class, at a staff meeting or PTA meeting. 

Get Involved

Parents can have a huge influence in their school communities when they get involved.  Volunteer in your child’s classroom or help out in the school.  Take a leadership role- join the PTA, site council, diversity committee, or curriculum review committee.  Make your voice heard-express your thanks when the school or district takes steps to be LGBT inclusive and vocally oppose any anti-LGBT policies or actions.  Speak up at a school board meeting or email board members and district administrators about issues that impact your family. 

Check Policies

Take a look at your school or district’s policies addressing discrimination, harassment and bullying to see if they include sexual orientation and gender identity/expression.  If they don’t, work with administrators, teachers and other parents to change them. 

Fix Forms 

If your school forms say “mother/father” rather than “parent/guardian,” ask if they could be updated to include all families 

Provide Resources 

Suggest specific, concrete ways the school could change to be more supportive of your family.  Offer suggestions for age-appropriate books, videos, curriculum and other materials that include LGBT families.  Donate some of these resources if you can.  Offer suggestions for how to deal with potentially sticky situations like Father’s Day, Mother’s Day, family-tree assignments, or how to respond when other parents have questions about your family.  Let your principal and teacher know about LGBT-related staff development opportunities, such as local trainers or conferences. 

Build Community

Organize a get-together with the parents/guardians of other children in your child’s classroom.  If there are other LGBT families at your school, organize an LGBT and Ally potluck at school.  Start an LGBT school advocacy group in your district or region.  There is great strength in numbers and in diverse voices advocating for fairness. 

Expect More

Whether your school is just beginning the process of becoming a welcoming environment for LGBT families or has already taken great strides to do so, continue to raise your expectations.  Nearly every school could take further steps to become even more welcoming and inclusive of LGBT families.  Help your school move to the next level. 

 

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